Susan Humphries
Son-Rise Program® Teacher,
Autism Treatment Center of America®
Relationships With People
Versus Relationships With Screens
Have you noticed that screened media
is everywhere you look these days? There are TV’s in our living rooms,
cars, and grocery stores too. Televisions, computers, smart phones, video
game devices all fall under the pervasive screen team. We know that you want to
support your children in the development of having joy filled relationships
versus spending thousands of hours isolating themselves behind those
captivating screens. One significant way to do this is to remove
all electronic devices or screen media. The American Academy of
Pediatrics reports that children under the age of six spend an average of 32
hours a week watching screened media. This number increases as our children get
older, with an average of 49 hours a week for our 8 to 18 year olds.
Here are some common reasons we hear
from parents as to why they let their children spend so much time with devices:
· “It is a babysitter.”- Probably one of the most common
reasons I hear from parents why they use devices is to babysit their children
when they need to tend to their busy lives. When the device is
removed your child will find other interests to gravitate towards.
Create an area that you can easily see and hear your child and that is
safe for your child to be in. Bring into this safe place fun toys that
your child may be interested in, such as their favorite items to ism with and
other objects of interest. Many of our children who are high functioning tend
to spend their screen time with video games or their favorite shows or movies.
Consider gathering books, board games, coloring books, figurines and other
items that are connected to their media interest. Solo play
actually helps our children with developing creativity, problem solving, and
motor planning.
· “We use it as a reward to good
behavior.”-
Children on the spectrum already have a phenomenal tendency to become fixated
in a repetitious way on things that are compelling. Often times this leads to
screen time being one of their biggest motivations. It is not uncommon for
people to use screen media as a reward when teaching; such as sitting through
meal time, potty training, learning a new skill, etc. In The
Son–Rise Program® we use motivations that we, ourselves, deliver and
celebrations as a reward. This way we are encouraging relationships and
understanding vs. prompt-reward dependency.
· “My apps have taught my
children the ABC’s and 1, 2, 3’s.”-
Screen devices go against the very skills that we teach in The Son-Rise
Program … SOCIALIZATION.
· Language development: Do not be deceived that the lines your child says over and
over again from their favorite show is a form of language. We want to
encourage communicative language. There have been many studies revealing
that the less screen time a child has and the more time they have with people
the better their understanding and use of language. Also, there is a direct
link between the more children watch screened devices and the greater chance
for them to have language delays. TV, the computer, smart phones, video games
will never respond to your child. It is one sided. The more responding we do to
our children’s sounds, words, gestures the more it reinforces for them to use
it.
· Attention Span: Many of you have noticed that your
child can attend to watching TV or playing on a screen for a long period of
time but their attention is fleeting when being with or playing with people.
Screen media is actually hypnotic- habit forming and addictive. The audio and
visual stimulation is EXTREME. Research suggests that the intense sensory
stimulation from video causes our brains to release dopamine. When
dopamine is produced it switches on the pleasure and reward center in our
brains. To put it into perspective, the same places are switched on with
alcohol and cocaine use. There is no way that you can be as
compelling as Pokémon, Sponge Bob, Zelda Universe, etc. This is one
reason it is challenging for us to compete with screens when trying to create
interaction. Also, because it is hypnotic in nature it will feed your
child’s exclusivity.
· “It is what we do as a family” : Families with special children
find that watching TV is the only thing their family does together. Sitting on
the couch with the family can seem like a typical family interaction. The
reality is there is no interaction and it is just a group of people being
exclusive, together.
Useful
tips when removing the devices:
· Lock up your devices when you are not
using them. We see many of our children become highly exclusive and controlling
around screen watching. I have seen children climb to the tops of a
fridge to get to their parents’ smart phone. Our children are so clever
and often figure out your pass code. “Out of site out of mind,” is the most
helpful.
· If you are not ready to recycle your
Plasma screen TV, many families simply unplug their them or move their mini
theaters into another room that can be locked.
· If your child asks for it: No matter
what your child’s level of language ability is explain to them why it is not
around. For example, “We are so excited that we get to spend more
quality time together! We are not going to watch T.V (play on the computer,
etc.)because it is so distracting and takes away our SPECIAL time
together.”
· As mentioned above, create a safe
place your child can occupy themselves when you are tending to other things.
Most importantly run your Son–Rise
Program. Those captivating screens will never help your child grow as
much as quality time with a loving, joyful and enthusiastic person in a
non-distracting environment.
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