Here is a story that will inspire you! It is a
story of a single mother named Teboho from Africa who is making her
dreams come true for herself and her son. When her son was 14-years-old, he was
living in a residential setting and came home every other weekend. At the end
of the weekend Teboho felt that her son was just starting to connect with her
and she longed for this interaction with him, yet it was time for him to go
back to his residential home. It was then that she decided to bring him
home full-time as she deeply wanted to have this relationship with him. She
also believed she could help him more.
Not knowing exactly how to help her son, she
searched for an effective Autism treatment option and eventually discovered The
Son-Rise Program®. However, in order for her to get to The
Son-Rise Program® Start-Up training course that is over 8,000 miles
away, this was a distant dream. She loves her son and passionately wanted to
learn all she could to help him, so she began talking with a Son-Rise
Program Advisor at the Autism Treatment Center of America™.
She shared her challenges - lack of money, the difficulty of obtaining child
care, time off from work, etc. For Teboho, there were many reasons why this
dream would not become a reality. However, having shared her concerns, a
Son-Rise Program Advisor was able to support and guide her – she was given
a scholarship towards her tuition and presented with ideas of how to ask her
family, friends and community for help. For the very first time and with a deep
sense of humility and determination, Teboho reached out for help. She asked her
church, her friends and her family. In 2011, she made her dream a reality and
attended The Son-Rise Program Start-Up training course in Sheffield,
Massachusetts, USA, having raised all the money she needed, organized care for
her son while she was away, arranged time-off work, as well as all the other
hundreds of details that make such a trip possible.
Teboho continued to dream. She wanted to learn more
to help her son, “I want to take him to The Son-Rise Program Intensive!” she
told herself. And so began the next step in her journey. She talked with her Son-Rise
Program Advisor, again getting the encouragement and guidance to bring her
dream alive. She received a scholarship that greatly helped. Again she reached
out, again she did all that was required and with great persistence and
passion she made it possible for both herself and her son to come to the Autism
Treatment Center of America. She was also able to bring her sister for
support and help on this adventure.
With a mixture of nervousness and excitement Teboho
arrived at the Johannesburg Airport with her sister and 17-year-old son with
Autism to begin their journey to The Son-Rise Program Intensive.
Ahead was a 25-hour journey including two plane rides and a car ride.
However, the journey did not go as planned … While waiting in the
check-in line Teboho’s son became overwhelmed by all the noises, the visual
stimuli and the people waiting in line and ran out of the airport and would not
come back in. As they drove away from the airport Teboho cried as she talked
with one of The Son-Rise Program Teachers as she shared her feelings of
disappointment, fear and hopelessness about not getting her son to the United
States for the help she so deeply wanted for her son and herself. That evening
as these feelings swirled around within her she focused on her love and what
she wanted for her son-she did not give up! She called the airline to set up a
different system of boarding the plane and with this plan and hope in her heart
that all would work out, she arrived back at the airport. That evening she
boarded the plane with her son and her sister bound for The Son-Rise Program
Intensive in the USA.
They arrived with great relief at the Autism
Treatment Center of America, one day late. As our Son-Rise Program
Intensive staff added additional hours for the remaining four days, Teboho
was determined to help her son to the fullest. In these four days she
learned so much and observed The Son-Rise Program Child Facilitators
working with her son. They worked with him from 9:00 in the morning until 6:00
at night and had the best time! Here are just a few of the changes he made
during this week:
- His interactive attention span doubled!
- Having received many years of ABA therapy he had very little spontaneous language and most of the time repeated the last sentence a person said to him. This week he increased his spontaneous interaction.
- He was more affectionate.
- He allowed more physical contact.
- He made more eye-to-eye contact and for longer.
- He smiled more throughout the week (more than his mother had ever seen before.)
- He used more language.
- He was singing every night after the playroom sessions, as he walked around the apartment.
- He went into the playroom on his own in the morning.
- He was calmer and more connected.
These are incredible changes! As one of The
Son-Rise Program Teachers during this week I felt very honored and
blessed to be a part of their journey. The moments that stood out for me were
the times Teboho smiled and laughed with her son. It was so beautiful to
witness her devotion and to see what she made happen for herself and her son.
I share this story of this single mother and her
son because like many stories that I hear, this one inspired me. I feel
inspired by the power of Teboho’s love, her humility and unwavering
determination – it would have been very easy and understandable for her to
never have started this journey … but she did. It is a story of inspiration-
that we too can create the life we want for ourselves and our loved ones. Even
with our fears and thoughts of the impossible, all that is required is the love
in your heart and the determination to take the first step, and then the next.
There is no guarantee you will get exactly what you dream for but you will
never know if you do not take that first step and all the steps that follow.
Let this mother inspire you – take that next step!
William
a beautiful and inspiring story I read.
ReplyDeleteI contacted Ruth and she informed me that the material sent me to this beautiful way to start the connection with my son through love and acceptance. I confess that I am anxious to get it and I can help my son.
perhaps in the future to travel to the U.S. to receive the necessary education so they can help more parents in my country Chile, where I live.
again thank the good intentions that have to help our children.
fraternal greetings
CRISTIAN GALLO
Wow! This is an amazing story of hope and determination~ The progress described is awesome!
ReplyDeleteI remember meeting Teboho at the Start Up in September, 2011. She is an amazing woman and a dedicated mother. Thank you for sharing this update. I think of her often. Blessings to you Teboho and your son.
ReplyDeleteCarla
I am humbled by these words of encouragement and support and would like to express my gratitude to everyone.I believe that God has given us these special people to parent , for a reason. We are filled with determination, and once you walk with the Option Institute team, whatever fears and doubts you might have now and then, they are ready to cheer you on.I know because I have and still walk this road with them.No guarantees as they say, but there is nothing to loose in trying and a lot to gain and have a lot of fun whilst doing the Son-Rise programme. Thank you once more Carla and all other participants. Greetings from South Africa.
Deletei hope i can also do this for my son...
ReplyDeleteHats off to such a wonderful and determined mother, I am looking forward to do the best for my son recovery as well.
ReplyDeleteHi William it has been a long time since me and my husband attended the start-up and the maximum programs.I'm HALA Anbar & my husband Osama, we were with you a year ago. Thanks for your support as well as that of Bears and all the staff in Son Rise and thanks for this wonderful story which is similar to my son's case. He is ok & i'm trying to keep track with your program the only obstacle is finding a volunteer or even a shadow to help me. I will try not to give up even with the current situation in Egypt...God Bless You all& pray for our country's safety..
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